Backhanded compliments are too common in society’s hierarchical rivalry. Everyone is struggling, fighting to be number one, to be the top dog. Our societal interactions and relationships are formed around the concept of – Maximise me, minimise them. Instead of working hard to be the best, a web of deceit cocoons each troubled self-centred soul. I have come to believe the compliments we receive are hollow and empty, essentially meaningless. You get the odd ‘friend‘ that will pay you an off handed compliment, but 60 seconds later that false hope is shattered by another devastating blow leaving you flailing to maintain balance while your ‘friend’ towers over you for everyone to see.
Is it that hard to appreciate and notice someone, give them true and honest applause? Yes it may leave you vulnerable, leaving you feeling diminished. The honest truth is that they may even look better than you, make you look feeble and weak. But what motivation, get back onto the horse and push harder. Be proud of a ‘friend‘, notice and praise them and they may very quickly become a friend! Do not worship or hail them as king, but simply extol there positive actions, recognise their virtues. Build them and they will build you in an honest and true relationship.
Is it really that hard to blow the horn of recognition in true selflessness? No deceit, no backhanded compliments, no minimising others to maximise self.